What We Do

Curious, Tiger? Then...

FLIRT with our ideas at a seminar or one-day event.

We offer one-day workshops, conferences & community seminars as an introduction to the core ideas of Manifest Love.

PUT YOUR ARMS AROUND a weekend

Weekends offer the chance to go one step deeper, to explore how we interact with each other and offer new ways for us to see ourselves, our interactions, our cultural practices and place in the larger world.

Our focus is, simply, crafting the lives- social, intimate, sexual, communal, voluntary, ethical - that we seek to experience with each other.

It is a weekend unlike any you have ever experienced. Typical topics include: How we hurt and help each other, reconnecting to our hope for gay world, gay fantasies and asking for what we really want; burning our demons, sexual mentorship, requiem for a Bitchy Queen, giving language to our lives; how we learn to be queer men; Deconstructing our Bliss, The sacred role of sexually different men in history; Using our eyes in whole new ways to get what we really want; Loving Disturbances; New ways to be with and for each other.

Throughout, we envision and build innovations toward the more nurturing and affectionate gay world we want to live in, as we practice new kinds of patterns with each other. Oh, and yeah, we definitely have fun.

Weekends bring together 30-50 men together from Friday to Sunday, for experiences in large and small groups, time for individual reflection, social play, and collective public action. Meals and work are shared, costs are minimal.

We have offered daylong and weekend retreats in Providence,San Francisco, Boulder, Maine, Atlanta, Chicago, Ft Lauderdale and New York.

ROLL AROUND with a local ML team

If you like this vision, enjoy the weekend time, and want to carry this work back home into your daily life, join a local Manifest Love team. There other men of like spirit feel the same way -- and work to put values into action. Team do two things:

(1) Develop and promote our own critical understanding of our cultural innovations and ethics in gay worlds, and how they affect our hearts and actions with each other.

(2) Inventing novel ways of manifesting affectionate and nurturant practice in our communities and lives. We call them …

What the hell's a Loving Disturbance, and where do I get me one?

Loving Disturbances are just that: innovations and experiments in applied affection -- the action core of Manifest Love's work.

Loving Disturbances are ACTIONS that bring VALUES into being. They enlarge usual patterns of queer men's habits so we meet and interact in new ways, and have fun doing it. Loving Disturbances are concrete real-world experiments to nudge and grow the patterns and practices of our lives in more affirming and humane directions.

A Loving Disturbance leaves our corner of queer world just a little better off for us. Because it turns out, when we're all being better with each other, the next thing you know … that's what we are to each other.

Basically, it comes down to this:

* Wanna change the defaults of gay-dom? Lend a hand, Tiger.

* Wanna re-write the code of conduct of the Queer Kingdom? Grab a pen.

* Want a more trusting and affectionate queer men's world? Make it.

* Want to feel love being manifest with the men in your life? Manifest Love.